Poor dad is having to rough it in FLA at a conference where he doesn't know as many people as he is accustomed to. I told him to make new friends -- we'll see how he did tonight at dinner.
Meanwhile, I really need that digital SLR--every time I had a great shot, the camera delay meant I couldn't get even Eddie's face, let alone a smile. This picture, showcases his latest in dining experiences--wanting to share (but not really) his food.
There's a great article in the Wash Post today about Moms at War--that is Stay at Moms and Working Moms. It's an excerpt from a book that suggests part of the problem could be that each wants a bit of what the other has, and even more fundamentally that each is misunderstood.
It kind of gets at what I've been battling in my head this past year. I've been back and forth about wether I should work (even part time) or not. After much discussion with other moms, Den, and some inward consideration, I decided I would be a better mom if I got a break and got to work. Yet there is and I suspect always will be a part of me that wonders if I shouldn't be at home full time. After all, I'm a great cook, a meticulous cleaner and handy when it comes to sewing my own clothes. Yup, I'm one of those moms who is tortured by what is on the other side. Afterall, I did cook dinner, or some part thereof three or so nights last week and we all lived to tell about it.
Another interesting take is below.
http://workingmomredundancies.blogspot.com/
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The blogosphere is particularly outspoken on the subject of WMs vs SAHMs -- every time a new article comes out, everyone starts posting and commenting like mad.
No one has pointed this out (to my knowledge), but it's an issue that concerns the blogging world specifically and more than other media communities. After all, blogs -- while used by lots of different people -- are an especially important medium/tool/outlet for SAHMs.
That's for sure (every time a new article/book comes out). The various listserves to which I belong usually have a couple days of flames, back and forths, etc.
I liked the idea of the book, if it really is, to gain a better understanding of the other person's situation, rather than judging their decision.
Re: blogs as a tool for SAHM, I will say that I enjoy posting to my blog, and certainly do so more than most of the blogs I check--but this could be due more to an addiction to the internet than to the WAHM thing. At times it can be so catharic.
SInce I started paying attention to the issue (about a year ago), there have certainly been some interesting conversations started thanks to new books and articles. Sure makes me feel like I'm not alone...which really is what people like to know..that's its not just them with their particular thought or approach.
I read a lot of mommy blogs (although I read yours for more selfish reasons, of course). It seems to me that some of the SAHMs who 15 years ago were ranting about not having enough adult conversation now are pursuing interesting questions (including this debate) on their own blogs. It's all about the virtual community.
The debate frequently devolves into hostility, that's for sure. Probably (I'm guessing -- after all, what do I know?) because at stake is everyone's definition of ideal motherhood, and no one is willing to cede that ground!
Despite my sarcasim in the post about being worthy of SAHM status, I really am conflicted.
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